A few years ago I decided to stop watching the news. And we don’t have a TV anymore. I still like to be informed of what is going on in the world. This morning I scanned the news on my iPhone, as I do daily. It was depressing. The Ukrainian war, the risk of another nuclear accident, the floods in …
Pure gold and goodness
Self loving-kindness The greatest gift you can give to yourself and others and yet the greatest challenge. If self-deprecating thoughts are your norm. If you are feeling not quite capable, lovable, enough, deserving of love and good things coming your way. If comparison with others or approval from others, him in particular, was or is the way you measure you value …
Complete, just as you are
Just a little reminder… You are a whole person in yourself. You don’t need anyone to complete you (look at the millions of happy singles in the world). The people in our lives, including partners, husbands, children, boyfriends, friends, family, add tremendous value, meaning, richness, love, happiness to our lives but I’d highly recommend not to make them the centre …
On boundaries
The boundaries you set for yourself are as important as the ones you set for him or others. And this is particularly important while you are healing from a breakup or a divorce. If boundaries are all about showing people how to treat you with respect. Are you treating yourself with that same respect? Things like: Being firm yet gentle …
That space of lonely heartbreak
The weekend again. If you are in that space of lonely heartbreak, exacerbated by months of pandemic, it may not make any difference to you. At this point, you have by yourself reached the conclusion that you will never be happy again or find love again. Getting through this breakup or divorce and moving on it is a conscious decision, a …
Let’s talk self-love and heartbreak and why this is now more important than ever
So let’s talk self-love and why this is important during heartbreak. It is important because during this time you are probably being very hard on yourself, disliking yourself. So being kind with yourself during this challenging time is more important than ever. When we have a good and healthy relationship with ourselves we become a much happier person and this …
When asking for help is an act of courage
Is reaching out for support to help you get through this painful divorce or breakup difficult for you? YOU ARE NOT ALONE. I was the same. Many women of the women who reach up to me are the same. Asking for support was a huge and courageous step to take. A step some of them have taken for the first …
How daily journaling can be life saving throughout your heartbreak
Writing about stressful events helps you come to terms with them, thus reducing the impact of these stressors on your physical and emotional health. If you are new to journaling, you can try this: 1- GET A PEN AND SOME PAPER 2- CHOOSE A PLACE AND A TIME AND MAKE SURE YOU ARE NOT GOING TO BE INTERRUPTED 3- SET …
Feeling lovable and capable again
A divorce or a breakup can rock self-esteem to the core. Years ago, my own breakup certainly rocked mine (already wobbly) for a long time. From blaming myself and feeling like a total failure to not being good enough, falling short (always) and feeling that there was definitely something wrong with me. It was really difficult. And I see the …
The silent pain of heartbreak
I think the challenges that a heartbreak brings are underestimated. We do not talk about it much. Often well intentioned and caring friends and family will give us advice and try to cheer us up so we can get over it as soon as possible. Breakups happen to anyone but that doesn’t make them less painful or challenging. And we …