Let me introduce you to my greatest teacher: my husband. For those of us willing and open to do the inner work and the learning, the challenges that arise from intimate relationships can be the greatest teacher. And the lessons can be tough, lol. The “learning is process” requires courage. Patience. Kindness. Love Humility. The courage to listen.Really listen. The courage to look with …
Complete, just as you are
Just a little reminder… You are a whole person in yourself. You don’t need anyone to complete you (look at the millions of happy singles in the world). The people in our lives, including partners, husbands, children, boyfriends, friends, family, add tremendous value, meaning, richness, love, happiness to our lives but I’d highly recommend not to make them the centre …
Secrets
Giving yourself permission to feel whatever you are feeling is crucial in order to heal and move on after a breakup. But as important as feeling it is sharing those feelings and emotions. I used to be really good at keeping it all to myself. I was the bearer of so many secrets, things I had done, felt, said or …
Give yourself time
Breakup. Divorce. Separation. Whether you have already left or have been left, recently or time ago. Whether you are in the final stages of a divorce after challenging years. Or want to leave behind a relationship that is no longer working, and perhaps hasn’t worked for a long time, and are in the process of building up the strength, confidence …
Let’s talk self-love and heartbreak and why this is now more important than ever
So let’s talk self-love and why this is important during heartbreak. It is important because during this time you are probably being very hard on yourself, disliking yourself. So being kind with yourself during this challenging time is more important than ever. When we have a good and healthy relationship with ourselves we become a much happier person and this …
What do you choose?
You have a choice Think of this heartbreak as a catalyst. There are two ways of looking at our stories, even the most painful ones. One way is to play the victim of the circumstances, blaming, feeling sorry for ourselves, powerless, small. The other way is when we turn our story around. And use it as a tool to heal, …
When asking for help is an act of courage
Is reaching out for support to help you get through this painful divorce or breakup difficult for you? YOU ARE NOT ALONE. I was the same. Many women of the women who reach up to me are the same. Asking for support was a huge and courageous step to take. A step some of them have taken for the first …
Waterloo station, 1998
LONDON It was a warm, sunny evening. I only had a suitcase ? but that’s all I needed. I was excited and looking forward to my new life in a foreign country whose language I hardly spoke. I had left Madrid 2 weeks before. I had decided to have my hair cut really short and, on my way to my new life, …
Addicted to him? Your body says so
You miss him and it really hurts. You are totally overwhelmed with feelings of sadness, grief, confusion, anger at times and even suicidal despair, to name a few. The emotional challenges that a breakup or a divorce bring are countless. And the pain is real. So real that it can be seen on brain scans. Seriously. Brain studies done on …