4 steps to Setting Healthy Boundaries

Flor Taboada Boundaries, Self-esteem

In my group Program, Loving your Imperfect Self, we have been working on personal boundarie. Often, we may not know what boundaries are or how to set them, especially if we have a story of having had them violated repeatedly over the years. Think of your boundaries as some sort of guidelines or set of rules that show others how …

This is what feeling enough is really like

Flor Taboada blog, Boundaries, Emotional healing, Lovingkindness, Self love, Self-confidence, Self-esteem

If our self-esteem and sense of worth are shaky, having the courage to go for what you want in life is basically an impossible task. Lacking assertiveness, self-esteem, and self-worth usually go hand in hand with a risk-averse personality. Difficult to know which goes 1st In the work I do with my clients, we start with the core which is …

Decisions

Flor Taboada Self-esteem

Not feeling enough can greatly impact our capacity to make decisions. We may overthink. We may not trust our judgment or our ability to make the “right” decision. We may fear committing to just one outcome and, therefore, not leaving all our options open.I am an overthinker and very indecisive person. I have always been but that trend is changing. …

I cast a spell on myself

Flor Taboada Self-esteem

More often than not, we carry our “not enoughness” in silence. You would be surprised to know how many people you admire and see as an example of self-confidence and success are carrying inside the “not enough” burden. And the more successful the more deeply buried. Almost like shame. In my healing practice, I have come across many successful and …

Stay in your own lane

Flor Taboada Emotional healing, Healing, Lovingkindness, Self-empowerment, Self-esteem

Stay in your own lane. You have heard me saying before that the relationship we have with ourselves shapes every single area of our lives, from relationships to work, even health. If that relationship is healthy, you are able to accept yourself as you are, imperfections (if such things exist other than in our minds) and all. One of the …

Pure gold and goodness

Flor Taboada Emotional healing, Healing, Lovingkindness, Self-care, Self-empowerment, Self-esteem

Self loving-kindness The greatest gift you can give to yourself and others and yet the greatest challenge. If self-deprecating thoughts are your norm. If you are feeling not quite capable, lovable, enough, deserving of love and good things coming your way. If comparison with others or approval from others, him in particular, was or is the way you measure you value …

Your emotional inner-core strength

Flor Taboada Boundaries, Emotional healing, Lovingkindness, Self-empowerment, Self-esteem

What we tolerate is the way we are teaching others how they can treat us. For some of us, especially women, it can be really hard to assert ourselves. Especially if we are “people pleasers” or “conflict or confrontation avoiders” or both. If our self-esteem and sense of worth is shaky, asserting ourselves is basically an impossible task. Because assertiveness, …

Complete, just as you are

Flor Taboada Divorce, Emotional healing, Healing, Heartbreak, Lovingkindness, Relationships, Self-care, Self-empowerment, Self-esteem

Just a little reminder… You are a whole person in yourself. You don’t need anyone to complete you (look at the millions of happy singles in the world). The people in our lives, including partners, husbands, children, boyfriends, friends, family, add tremendous value, meaning, richness, love, happiness to our lives but I’d highly recommend not to make them the centre …