If our self-esteem and sense of worth are shaky, having the courage to go for what you want in life is basically an impossible task.
Lacking assertiveness, self-esteem, and self-worth usually go hand in hand with a risk-averse personality.
Difficult to know which goes 1st
In the work I do with my clients, we start with the core which is that sense of inner kindness, self-worth, enoughness, but also possibility.
And what I have seen is that almost every woman I work with wishes they were more courageous. And part of my job is to reflect back to them all the things they have done in their lives that show that they are 1000 times more courageous than they think. And reaching out to me is one of those things.
Usually, there is a great deal of comparing involved.
And a lot of perfectionism and beating themselves up too.
But also a genuine fear of change.
However, healing into feeling enough is a process that can be self-paced. You decide.
You are not going to change overnight into a brag, arrogant, overpowering, inflated ego sort of person.
For me, contrary to what many people may think, it is quite the opposite.
Feeling enough is about self-respect, and self-kindness.
Self-respect because if you are accepting unacceptable behaviour from others or beating yourself up, you are behaving in an unacceptable and abusive way with yourself.
Feeling enough is a grounded, sometimes even quiet, sense of self and self-worth.
A strong sense of inner power and self-assurance together with humility.
Does it make sense?