Keeping prioritising other people’s needs at the expense of ours comes with a price. And this is the thing: attending to your needs and moving yourself up your priority list can be done without compromising your loving, caring nature. Growing in self-confidence and self-belief and choosing the people you want in your life, doesn’t mean that you stop caring. Quiet the opposite. …
4 steps to Setting Healthy Boundaries
In my group Program, Loving your Imperfect Self, we have been working on personal boundarie. Often, we may not know what boundaries are or how to set them, especially if we have a story of having had them violated repeatedly over the years. Think of your boundaries as some sort of guidelines or set of rules that show others how …
This is what feeling enough is really like
If our self-esteem and sense of worth are shaky, having the courage to go for what you want in life is basically an impossible task. Lacking assertiveness, self-esteem, and self-worth usually go hand in hand with a risk-averse personality. Difficult to know which goes 1st In the work I do with my clients, we start with the core which is …
Your emotional inner-core strength
What we tolerate is the way we are teaching others how they can treat us. For some of us, especially women, it can be really hard to assert ourselves. Especially if we are “people pleasers” or “conflict or confrontation avoiders” or both. If our self-esteem and sense of worth is shaky, asserting ourselves is basically an impossible task. Because assertiveness, …
On boundaries
The boundaries you set for yourself are as important as the ones you set for him or others. And this is particularly important while you are healing from a breakup or a divorce. If boundaries are all about showing people how to treat you with respect. Are you treating yourself with that same respect? Things like: Being firm yet gentle …