Breakup. Divorce. Separation. Whether you have already left or have been left, recently or time ago. Whether you are in the final stages of a divorce after challenging years. Or want to leave behind a relationship that is no longer working, and perhaps hasn’t worked for a long time, and are in the process of building up the strength, confidence …
There is another way
My work, which I love, is about taking women by the hand and showing them that there is a different way to navigate the pain of a breakup or a divorce. I want you to know that this challenging time can be used as a catalyst for change and growth. Whether this experience is a contraction or an expansion of …
That space of lonely heartbreak
The weekend again. If you are in that space of lonely heartbreak, exacerbated by months of pandemic, it may not make any difference to you. At this point, you have by yourself reached the conclusion that you will never be happy again or find love again. Getting through this breakup or divorce and moving on it is a conscious decision, a …
Let’s talk self-love and heartbreak and why this is now more important than ever
So let’s talk self-love and why this is important during heartbreak. It is important because during this time you are probably being very hard on yourself, disliking yourself. So being kind with yourself during this challenging time is more important than ever. When we have a good and healthy relationship with ourselves we become a much happier person and this …
Another Friday Night
Another Friday night. Another weekend not to look forward to. You don’t even want to see the few friends you aren’t hiding from. You don’t like them to see you this way So down So depressed So overwhelmed by sadness and grief So lonely You definitely don’t won’t them to feel sorry for you, to give you advice on what …
When asking for help is an act of courage
Is reaching out for support to help you get through this painful divorce or breakup difficult for you? YOU ARE NOT ALONE. I was the same. Many women of the women who reach up to me are the same. Asking for support was a huge and courageous step to take. A step some of them have taken for the first …
How daily journaling can be life saving throughout your heartbreak
Writing about stressful events helps you come to terms with them, thus reducing the impact of these stressors on your physical and emotional health. If you are new to journaling, you can try this: 1- GET A PEN AND SOME PAPER 2- CHOOSE A PLACE AND A TIME AND MAKE SURE YOU ARE NOT GOING TO BE INTERRUPTED 3- SET …
Feeling lovable and capable again
A divorce or a breakup can rock self-esteem to the core. Years ago, my own breakup certainly rocked mine (already wobbly) for a long time. From blaming myself and feeling like a total failure to not being good enough, falling short (always) and feeling that there was definitely something wrong with me. It was really difficult. And I see the …
Waterloo station, 1998
LONDON It was a warm, sunny evening. I only had a suitcase 🧳 but that’s all I needed. I was excited and looking forward to my new life in a foreign country whose language I hardly spoke. I had left Madrid 2 weeks before. I had decided to have my hair cut really short and, on my way to my new life, …
The silent pain of heartbreak
I think the challenges that a heartbreak brings are underestimated. We do not talk about it much. Often well intentioned and caring friends and family will give us advice and try to cheer us up so we can get over it as soon as possible. Breakups happen to anyone but that doesn’t make them less painful or challenging. And we …