As a late bloomer myself, I have become an “it’s never too late” kind of woman. For instance, despite having known in my heart for many years that healing was my calling it took me a long time to leap, leave the 9-5 job behind and gather the courage to become self-employed & go for my dream. Whatever your calling …
Getting your needs met without compromising your caring nature
Keeping prioritising other people’s needs at the expense of ours comes with a price. And this is the thing: attending to your needs and moving yourself up your priority list can be done without compromising your loving, caring nature. Growing in self-confidence and self-belief and choosing the people you want in your life, doesn’t mean that you stop caring. Quiet the opposite. …
Shedding old leaves
There comes a time in life when the baggage we carry is weighing a bit too much. There comes a time when all that worrying, the overthinking, the people pleasing, the fears, the comparing, the self-doubt and second guessing, the perfectionism are getting SO MUCH in the way of things, in the way of the work we crave, the relationships …
TV and the Butterfly effect
A few years ago I decided to stop watching the news. And we don’t have a TV anymore. I still like to be informed of what is going on in the world. This morning I scanned the news on my iPhone, as I do daily. It was depressing. The Ukrainian war, the risk of another nuclear accident, the floods in …
Making peace with the person you really are
We humans tend to normalise situations and feelings. It’s a survival mechanism. For many years, as long as I can remember, I thought comparing myself to others and falling short was the way I was and perhaps the way other people were too. I got so used to identifying with that way of being that the idea of things being …
Stay in your own lane
Stay in your own lane. You have heard me saying before that the relationship we have with ourselves shapes every single area of our lives, from relationships to work, even health. If that relationship is healthy, you are able to accept yourself as you are, imperfections (if such things exist other than in our minds) and all. One of the …
Pure gold and goodness
Self loving-kindness The greatest gift you can give to yourself and others and yet the greatest challenge. If self-deprecating thoughts are your norm. If you are feeling not quite capable, lovable, enough, deserving of love and good things coming your way. If comparison with others or approval from others, him in particular, was or is the way you measure you value …
Relationships as teachers
Let me introduce you to my greatest teacher: my husband. For those of us willing and open to do the inner work and the learning, the challenges that arise from intimate relationships can be the greatest teacher. And the lessons can be tough, lol. The “learning is process” requires courage. Patience. Kindness. Love Humility. The courage to listen.Really listen. The courage to look with …
Debunk your own story
I was talking to a client this morning and reminding her of an important message. That she was enough. And so are you. No matter how many mistakes you think you have made, not matter how many times someone else has tried to put you down or make you feel less than, you are enough. Enoughnness is our birthright. Babies feel enough. You …
Complete, just as you are
Just a little reminder… You are a whole person in yourself. You don’t need anyone to complete you (look at the millions of happy singles in the world). The people in our lives, including partners, husbands, children, boyfriends, friends, family, add tremendous value, meaning, richness, love, happiness to our lives but I’d highly recommend not to make them the centre …