So let’s talk self-love and why this is important during heartbreak. It is important because during this time you are probably being very hard on yourself, disliking yourself. So being kind with yourself during this challenging time is more important than ever. When we have a good and healthy relationship with ourselves we become a much happier person and this …
Another Friday Night
Another Friday night. Another weekend not to look forward to. You don’t even want to see the few friends you aren’t hiding from. You don’t like them to see you this way So down So depressed So overwhelmed by sadness and grief So lonely You definitely don’t won’t them to feel sorry for you, to give you advice on what …
When asking for help is an act of courage
Is reaching out for support to help you get through this painful divorce or breakup difficult for you? YOU ARE NOT ALONE. I was the same. Many women of the women who reach up to me are the same. Asking for support was a huge and courageous step to take. A step some of them have taken for the first …
How daily journaling can be life saving throughout your heartbreak
Writing about stressful events helps you come to terms with them, thus reducing the impact of these stressors on your physical and emotional health. If you are new to journaling, you can try this: 1- GET A PEN AND SOME PAPER 2- CHOOSE A PLACE AND A TIME AND MAKE SURE YOU ARE NOT GOING TO BE INTERRUPTED 3- SET …
Feeling lovable and capable again
A divorce or a breakup can rock self-esteem to the core. Years ago, my own breakup certainly rocked mine (already wobbly) for a long time. From blaming myself and feeling like a total failure to not being good enough, falling short (always) and feeling that there was definitely something wrong with me. It was really difficult. And I see the …
Waterloo station, 1998
LONDON It was a warm, sunny evening. I only had a suitcase 🧳 but that’s all I needed. I was excited and looking forward to my new life in a foreign country whose language I hardly spoke. I had left Madrid 2 weeks before. I had decided to have my hair cut really short and, on my way to my new life, …
The silent pain of heartbreak
I think the challenges that a heartbreak brings are underestimated. We do not talk about it much. Often well intentioned and caring friends and family will give us advice and try to cheer us up so we can get over it as soon as possible. Breakups happen to anyone but that doesn’t make them less painful or challenging. And we …
Homecoming
I used to find it really hard to express my feelings, to show vulnerability and reach out for support. I guess since an early age I learnt to cope on my own. Not because I couldn’t have had support. But because I didn’t want to cause any trouble or be a burden. Plus, in my mind, asking for help and …
Don’t get over it
I totally get that you want to get over your heartbreak as soon as possible. But I’m so glad I simply didn’t get OVER mine, as I had done before. It was a “through” rather than an “over” I’m grateful that I followed that inner voice that told me to do things differently. Because the voice was right. It was …
5 Keys to manageable Self-Care during Heartbreak
In order to recover and get back on your feet after a heartbreak you need to start taking care of yourself and your needs. This especially applies if you are a caring person by nature, used to put everyone else’s need first, including his! So this isn’t about him anymore but about YOU. I consider self- care to be the …