Just a little reminder… You are a whole person in yourself. You don’t need anyone to complete you (look at the millions of happy singles in the world). The people in our lives, including partners, husbands, children, boyfriends, friends, family, add tremendous value, meaning, richness, love, happiness to our lives but I’d highly recommend not to make them the centre …
Secrets
Giving yourself permission to feel whatever you are feeling is crucial in order to heal and move on after a breakup. But as important as feeling it is sharing those feelings and emotions. I used to be really good at keeping it all to myself. I was the bearer of so many secrets, things I had done, felt, said or …
On boundaries
The boundaries you set for yourself are as important as the ones you set for him or others. And this is particularly important while you are healing from a breakup or a divorce. If boundaries are all about showing people how to treat you with respect. Are you treating yourself with that same respect? Things like: Being firm yet gentle …
Give yourself time
Breakup. Divorce. Separation. Whether you have already left or have been left, recently or time ago. Whether you are in the final stages of a divorce after challenging years. Or want to leave behind a relationship that is no longer working, and perhaps hasn’t worked for a long time, and are in the process of building up the strength, confidence …
There is another way
My work, which I love, is about taking women by the hand and showing them that there is a different way to navigate the pain of a breakup or a divorce. I want you to know that this challenging time can be used as a catalyst for change and growth. Whether this experience is a contraction or an expansion of …
That space of lonely heartbreak
The weekend again. If you are in that space of lonely heartbreak, exacerbated by months of pandemic, it may not make any difference to you. At this point, you have by yourself reached the conclusion that you will never be happy again or find love again. Getting through this breakup or divorce and moving on it is a conscious decision, a …
Let’s talk self-love and heartbreak and why this is now more important than ever
So let’s talk self-love and why this is important during heartbreak. It is important because during this time you are probably being very hard on yourself, disliking yourself. So being kind with yourself during this challenging time is more important than ever. When we have a good and healthy relationship with ourselves we become a much happier person and this …
Another Friday Night
Another Friday night. Another weekend not to look forward to. You don’t even want to see the few friends you aren’t hiding from. You don’t like them to see you this way So down So depressed So overwhelmed by sadness and grief So lonely You definitely don’t won’t them to feel sorry for you, to give you advice on what …
Homecoming
I used to find it really hard to express my feelings, to show vulnerability and reach out for support. I guess since an early age I learnt to cope on my own. Not because I couldn’t have had support. But because I didn’t want to cause any trouble or be a burden. Plus, in my mind, asking for help and …
Addicted to him? Your body says so
You miss him and it really hurts. You are totally overwhelmed with feelings of sadness, grief, confusion, anger at times and even suicidal despair, to name a few. The emotional challenges that a breakup or a divorce bring are countless. And the pain is real. So real that it can be seen on brain scans. Seriously. Brain studies done on …