So let’s talk self-love and why this is important during heartbreak. It is important because during this time you are probably being very hard on yourself, disliking yourself. So being kind with yourself during this challenging time is more important than ever. When we have a good and healthy relationship with ourselves we become a much happier person and this …
How daily journaling can be life saving throughout your heartbreak
Writing about stressful events helps you come to terms with them, thus reducing the impact of these stressors on your physical and emotional health. If you are new to journaling, you can try this: 1- GET A PEN AND SOME PAPER 2- CHOOSE A PLACE AND A TIME AND MAKE SURE YOU ARE NOT GOING TO BE INTERRUPTED 3- SET …
Feeling lovable and capable again
A divorce or a breakup can rock self-esteem to the core. Years ago, my own breakup certainly rocked mine (already wobbly) for a long time. From blaming myself and feeling like a total failure to not being good enough, falling short (always) and feeling that there was definitely something wrong with me. It was really difficult. And I see the …
The silent pain of heartbreak
I think the challenges that a heartbreak brings are underestimated. We do not talk about it much. Often well intentioned and caring friends and family will give us advice and try to cheer us up so we can get over it as soon as possible. Breakups happen to anyone but that doesn’t make them less painful or challenging. And we …
Homecoming
I used to find it really hard to express my feelings, to show vulnerability and reach out for support. I guess since an early age I learnt to cope on my own. Not because I couldn’t have had support. But because I didn’t want to cause any trouble or be a burden. Plus, in my mind, asking for help and …
Don’t get over it
I totally get that you want to get over your heartbreak as soon as possible. But I’m so glad I simply didn’t get OVER mine, as I had done before. It was a “through” rather than an “over” I’m grateful that I followed that inner voice that told me to do things differently. Because the voice was right. It was …
5 Keys to manageable Self-Care during Heartbreak
In order to recover and get back on your feet after a heartbreak you need to start taking care of yourself and your needs. This especially applies if you are a caring person by nature, used to put everyone else’s need first, including his! So this isn’t about him anymore but about YOU. I consider self- care to be the …
Addicted to him? Your body says so
You miss him and it really hurts. You are totally overwhelmed with feelings of sadness, grief, confusion, anger at times and even suicidal despair, to name a few. The emotional challenges that a breakup or a divorce bring are countless. And the pain is real. So real that it can be seen on brain scans. Seriously. Brain studies done on …
Nature, Self-care and Darjeeling afternoon Tea
Nature is my home and today I went for a long overdue walk in the countryside. I left it for later on Monday and didn’t happen and then on Tuesday and it didn’t happen either. Today I have the luxury of time and the “I’ll do it later” became the “I’ll do it NOW. A formula that tends to work …
In the aftermath of a breakup, be there for yourself
Don’t waste your time trying to change others Or fighting with the reality of your life. You cannot change others but you can change the way you relate with yourself. Today, right now, in this very moment, you can choose acceptance over denial You can choose loving-kindness over hard judgement. You can choose to acknowledge even if just one thing …