I was talking to a client this morning and reminding her of an important message. That she was enough. And so are you. No matter how many mistakes you think you have made, not matter how many times someone else has tried to put you down or make you feel less than, you are enough. Enoughnness is our birthright. Babies feel enough. You …
Secrets
Giving yourself permission to feel whatever you are feeling is crucial in order to heal and move on after a breakup. But as important as feeling it is sharing those feelings and emotions. I used to be really good at keeping it all to myself. I was the bearer of so many secrets, things I had done, felt, said or …
Give yourself time
Breakup. Divorce. Separation. Whether you have already left or have been left, recently or time ago. Whether you are in the final stages of a divorce after challenging years. Or want to leave behind a relationship that is no longer working, and perhaps hasn’t worked for a long time, and are in the process of building up the strength, confidence …
There is another way
My work, which I love, is about taking women by the hand and showing them that there is a different way to navigate the pain of a breakup or a divorce. I want you to know that this challenging time can be used as a catalyst for change and growth. Whether this experience is a contraction or an expansion of …
That space of lonely heartbreak
The weekend again. If you are in that space of lonely heartbreak, exacerbated by months of pandemic, it may not make any difference to you. At this point, you have by yourself reached the conclusion that you will never be happy again or find love again. Getting through this breakup or divorce and moving on it is a conscious decision, a …
Let’s talk self-love and heartbreak and why this is now more important than ever
So let’s talk self-love and why this is important during heartbreak. It is important because during this time you are probably being very hard on yourself, disliking yourself. So being kind with yourself during this challenging time is more important than ever. When we have a good and healthy relationship with ourselves we become a much happier person and this …
When asking for help is an act of courage
Is reaching out for support to help you get through this painful divorce or breakup difficult for you? YOU ARE NOT ALONE. I was the same. Many women of the women who reach up to me are the same. Asking for support was a huge and courageous step to take. A step some of them have taken for the first …
Homecoming
I used to find it really hard to express my feelings, to show vulnerability and reach out for support. I guess since an early age I learnt to cope on my own. Not because I couldn’t have had support. But because I didn’t want to cause any trouble or be a burden. Plus, in my mind, asking for help and …
In the aftermath of a breakup, be there for yourself
Don’t waste your time trying to change others Or fighting with the reality of your life. You cannot change others but you can change the way you relate with yourself. Today, right now, in this very moment, you can choose acceptance over denial You can choose loving-kindness over hard judgement. You can choose to acknowledge even if just one thing …