A divorce or a breakup can rock self-esteem to the core. Years ago, my own breakup certainly rocked mine (already wobbly) for a long time. From blaming myself and feeling like a total failure to not being good enough, falling short (always) and feeling that there was definitely something wrong with me. It was really difficult. And I see the …
The silent pain of heartbreak
I think the challenges that a heartbreak brings are underestimated. We do not talk about it much. Often well intentioned and caring friends and family will give us advice and try to cheer us up so we can get over it as soon as possible. Breakups happen to anyone but that doesn’t make them less painful or challenging. And we …
Homecoming
I used to find it really hard to express my feelings, to show vulnerability and reach out for support. I guess since an early age I learnt to cope on my own. Not because I couldn’t have had support. But because I didn’t want to cause any trouble or be a burden. Plus, in my mind, asking for help and …
Don’t get over it
I totally get that you want to get over your heartbreak as soon as possible. But I’m so glad I simply didn’t get OVER mine, as I had done before. It was a “through” rather than an “over” I’m grateful that I followed that inner voice that told me to do things differently. Because the voice was right. It was …
5 Keys to manageable Self-Care during Heartbreak
In order to recover and get back on your feet after a heartbreak you need to start taking care of yourself and your needs. This especially applies if you are a caring person by nature, used to put everyone else’s need first, including his! So this isn’t about him anymore but about YOU. I consider self- care to be the …
Addicted to him? Your body says so
You miss him and it really hurts. You are totally overwhelmed with feelings of sadness, grief, confusion, anger at times and even suicidal despair, to name a few. The emotional challenges that a breakup or a divorce bring are countless. And the pain is real. So real that it can be seen on brain scans. Seriously. Brain studies done on …
In the aftermath of a breakup, be there for yourself
Don’t waste your time trying to change others Or fighting with the reality of your life. You cannot change others but you can change the way you relate with yourself. Today, right now, in this very moment, you can choose acceptance over denial You can choose loving-kindness over hard judgement. You can choose to acknowledge even if just one thing …
Give the Flowers a Chance
Flower Essences are an ancient healing art that was reawaken in the West by Physician and Healer Dr Edward Back in the 1930s. Well ahead of his time, this amazing man realised that body and mind are not two but one. He turned to Mother Nature’s most precious and beautiful gift: Flowers, and harvested their energy to heal and treat …
Healing is a process
New growth. Healing is a process. Frustratingly quiet at times. Look at nature right now. So much happening underground. Plants and seeds lying dormant, quietly preparing their way up to hit the ground and the light. It can happen any day, anytime. In fact, it is already happening. How long did it take you to recover from a serious physical …
Borage Flower Essence
Borago officinalis. Another beautiful flower essence for the heart “The Borage takes us into positive weight and depth with her beautiful downward pointing azure star. This plant is so foundational for states of emotional heaviness and depression, helping us to honor and integrate deeper feelings of grief, loss or depression. It is truly one of the plants that helps us …