This is what I’ve found…Feeling not deservingSettling for less… relationships, jobs, things, and lives.External validation.FEARWhat they want may not come to them.FEAROf making the wrong decision.AnxiousLowSTUCKInadequateAfraid to speak upStand up for themselvesAsk for what they needGo for what they want.Are common themes among the women I work with. And I can really relate.For many years that was me.But there was …
Making peace with the person you really are
We humans tend to normalise situations and feelings. It’s a survival mechanism. For many years, as long as I can remember, I thought comparing myself to others and falling short was the way I was and perhaps the way other people were too. I got so used to identifying with that way of being that the idea of things being …
Stay in your own lane
Stay in your own lane. You have heard me saying before that the relationship we have with ourselves shapes every single area of our lives, from relationships to work, even health. If that relationship is healthy, you are able to accept yourself as you are, imperfections (if such things exist other than in our minds) and all. One of the …
Pure gold and goodness
Self loving-kindness The greatest gift you can give to yourself and others and yet the greatest challenge. If self-deprecating thoughts are your norm. If you are feeling not quite capable, lovable, enough, deserving of love and good things coming your way. If comparison with others or approval from others, him in particular, was or is the way you measure you value …
Your emotional inner-core strength
What we tolerate is the way we are teaching others how they can treat us. For some of us, especially women, it can be really hard to assert ourselves. Especially if we are “people pleasers” or “conflict or confrontation avoiders” or both. If our self-esteem and sense of worth is shaky, asserting ourselves is basically an impossible task. Because assertiveness, …