I totally get that you want to get over your heartbreak as soon as possible.

But I’m so glad I simply didn’t get OVER mine, as I had done before.

It was a “through” rather than an “over”

I’m grateful that I followed that inner voice that told me to do things differently.

Because the voice was right.

It was time to stop being my worst critic.

As an act of self-care and self-respect (self-love and self-appreciation were too ambitious words at the time and they only came much later), I chose to do something completely different. 

I chose to focus on
HEALING
REPAIRING
getting CLEARER about who I was, and what I wanted.

I focused on REBUILDING my life back.

One brick at a time.

And now there is a strength that wasn’t there before because that’s what happens when you do serious “structural, repair and maintenance” work at foundation level. 

A fascinating adventure that I highly recommend.

And investment for life.

Absolutely priceless.

I want the same for you.

Don’t just “cope with it.

Don’t just “get over it”.

But do the “inner work” instead.

Because whatever you don’t deal with now will show up again in a later relationship.

You can use this challenging time to rebuild yourself on stronger pillars.

To develop a stronger and steadier you, with a strength that wasn’t there before.

If I have done it, so can you.

And you are not alone.

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